singled out

/sɪŋɡ(ə)ld aʊt /

‘Singled’ as in single.
‘Out ‘as in out, fuera, ciao!

It’s one phrase with many meanings: Singled out as in apart, different, weird.
But also: Singled out as in particular, uncommon. Unique.

Synopsis

SINGLED [OUT] tells the story of five educated women in four corners of the world: Jules in Melbourne, Manu in Barcelona, Shu and Yang in Shanghai, and Melek in Istambul -they all travel solo in a world where pairing up is the norm. Together with the voices of some well-known experts in the areas of sociology, law and demography, the film unveils modern love in the era of choice, and is a journey to the heart of being a single woman today.

“Human beings are collectively interconnected. We're tribal, we need other people. But, do we need a significant other?”

Eva Cox (sociologist)Australia

“Whereas men or boys learn autonomy, girls have to learn attachment.”

Eva Illouz (sociologist) Israel

“Chinese culture believes the most disrespectful thing is not being good to parents, as in not having children,nor creating the next generation for the family.”

Li Yinhe (sociologist and sexologist) Xina

“Many women are looking for men that are yet to exist, whereas men are looking for women
that no longer exist.”

Albert Esteve (demographer) Spain

“The Chinese Government wants to get this so-called "high quality women" to marry and have a child for the good of the nation.”

Leta Hong Fincher (sociologist) Hong Kong

“Thousands of women in Turkey don't care about all these rules, ready to pay the highest price for it, they defend their rights and they don't change their lifestyle not even a millimetre.”

Hulya Gulbahar (lawyer and activist) Turkey

Singled What?

Singledom is on the rise, and now, for the first time, singles now outnumber married people in several parts of the world. In urban areas in Australia almost one in three women aged 30 to 34 do not have a partner; in Spain the numbers are the same. 30% of Japanese women aged 30-45 are not getting married, while, married women in their thirties in the USA dropped below 50 percent for the first time. China has about 20 million more men under 30 than women, yet there are 800,000 unmarried 30-plus-year-old women with a good education and high income, who choosing not to marry.

Despite this growing trend, being a single woman continues to bring with it a cultural stigma of discrimination, what’s been coined by social scientist Bella DePaulo as “singlism”. Our language is a telling tale: “spinster” in English, “solterona” in Spanish, or in Mandarin “shengnu” – a literal translation of being “leftover”! The prejudice, which is systemic, ubiquitous but often subtle and unrecognised, affects very significantly how women think and judge themselves. While some enjoy the freedoms of being single, there too often remains an underlying fear of failure and inadequacy. But that’s not all. Research shows that singlism contributes to discrimination of women in the workplace, in housing markets, in politics, in media and more generally in everyday life.

Singled [Out] explores the cross-cultural stigma that exists while aiming to change the narrative about female singledom. By putting on screen these five stories, the film works to both unfold the anxieties women face because of singlism, while simultaneously aiming to highlight the myths that different cultures perpetuate to maintain coupling as the status quo. The film considers the role that media, culture, religion and social values play in how single women are treated, and the real effects that this has on how women value themselves, as well as exploring the place of love on this era, the era of modern love.